PERMA in Amatorics

Instructions: The training is anonymous, not saved, and not shared with third parties.

The method is based on the PERMA model by psychologist M. Seligman — this technique allows you to change the thought patterns that suppress motivation. According to Seligman, by the end of the process, negative emotions will significantly decrease, and the person will be able to act constructively.

Each amatoric pattern (Eros, Philia, Agape, and Storge) is worked through separately. First, you are invited to analyze your state according to the pattern (you can go from the first to the fourth function of your psychotype). You need to assess how good your well-being is regarding the pattern, whether there are any unresolved problems at the moment, or immediately move on to your current problem. If the pattern's well-being is excellent, then move on to the next pattern; if a problem is felt, then proceed to fill out the sections.

Try to be as honest with yourself as possible. The more concretely and clearly the problem is formulated, without excessive abstraction and detachment from reality, the more accurately the work on the pattern will be carried out, which in turn will definitely yield results and bear fruit. This training can be done weekly; the more often, the better, because each day is unique and brings new experiences. Therefore, if you encounter problems and do not work through them, they will remain unresolved and will "ache" and remind you of themselves.

Problem Description

Formulate the problem. For example, you are worried about a quarrel with your friend, so this negatively affects Philia. In the problem description, you formulated your problem: "My friend was rude to me, and I was rude back to him, now we haven't spoken for three days, he doesn't want to meet me halfway, and I'm offended."

Disputation and Search

Here you will have to reflect, refute your negative statements, change the minus to a plus. For example, "It happens that people quarrel and do not find understanding with each other, and I completely forgot that my friend had problems at home and he has been very gloomy lately, and I didn't even ask why he was feeling bad."

Energizing Solution

And finally, formulate the action you are going to take. In our example, the action could be the decision: "It's still worth contacting my friend and trying to resolve the conflict; if the conflict is not resolved, it's worth leaving this friendship in the past and letting it go."