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DEFENDER
AFES
The Defender is a person who deeply cares about the well-being and happiness of both their loved ones and those around them. They strive for harmony and stability in their relationships, as well as make efforts to develop themselves in order to better understand their needs. The Defender creates a friendly atmosphere, is open to communication and strives for a warm and trusting relationship based on mutual respect. He avoids superficial connections, valuing depth and sincerity. The Defender is cautious in showing sympathy, fearing strong attachment and emotional vulnerability. He rarely openly expresses his feelings, preferring to remain calm. In relationships, he does not seek to dominate, but seeks advice for making decisions. The defender is afraid of uncertainty, preferring clarity and predictability.
  • Your ambition

    You sincerely strive to help others, show care and attention to their needs. Your altruism and willingness to support make you a valuable friend and protector (1st function, Agape).

  • Role in society

    You value friendship and trust, and are able to establish strong connections with people. Your loyalty and willingness to support in difficult times make you an irreplaceable friend (2nd function, Philia).

  • Growth zone

    While it may be difficult for you to express strong romantic feelings, deep down you yearn for passion and emotional intimacy. You can learn to show your sympathy more openly (3rd function, Eros.

  • The blind spot

    You accept advice and guidance, even though you may not always actively seek it out. You value the wisdom and experience that is passed on to you (4th function, Storge).

Study your psychotype
Description by function
  • 1
    First Agape
    They prefer to take care of themselves and others on their own, developing various strategies and plans for self-development. They pay attention to regular physical activity or proper nutrition. In addition, they share their problems and support each other, which helps them feel comfortable. They decide how best to take care of themselves and others based on their needs and preferences. For example, they can choose how to take better care of their health or how to devote more time to themselves. They strive to help others, even if it is not considered their merit. They constantly provide support to their friends, relatives and other people in their environment.

    In their care, they demonstrate social responsibility and want to help those who need it. When they offer help or care, they are willing to support and help others in a difficult situation. They may be hurt if their help is rejected or not appreciated. This usually happens when their actions are perceived as insignificant, and no one understands how important their contribution is. This can lead to a loss of self-esteem and respect for their initiative. In such a situation, they may feel lonely and unnecessary.
    "Relationships of care... this is tenderness and mutual interest, respect and careful care for the relationship itself, about the partner, about feelings. I love helping my partner and I consider it absolutely normal. Self-care is perceived with some surprise)) I don't really know how to take it.

    I'm not a very sensitive person, as much as I'd like to be. I can help you delicately, but the question is that you can achieve a better result by being direct, right? Everyone has difficulties in choosing, I will not allow you to be capricious out of love for art... In any case, I won't become a listener.

    ​In general, I tend to believe that an adult can decide for himself whether he needs my help or not, and say so. Therefore, in most cases, I take refusals calmly. Exceptions - if I see that the person does not understand the situation or makes it worse. I'll be angry here."
  • 2
    Second Filia
    They seek to establish friendships in which it is important to show interest in the other person. Meeting a new person opens up opportunities to discuss interesting topics and ideas. They have a well-developed social interest, they want to immediately connect to communication and use all the opportunities. They are able to make a good first impression and arouse interest in themselves. Their mutual interest helps strengthen both personal and business relationships. Thanks to this, they achieve success in strengthening their friendship.

    They strive to develop close and friendly relationships by showing interest in other people. They like to make other people happy and give them pleasure. They are genuinely interested in people and strive to build trust by asking questions that interest them. They build friendships based on mutual respect and recognition of each other's rights and interests. They recognize and respect each other as equals, without trying to dominate the relationship. They listen and take each other's opinions into account, share information and experience.
    "A friendship relationship is like a mountain for a friend. Trust and a general wave, your own jokes that are useless to explain to others. This is a calm, deep confidence in a person and in their attitude towards them, as well as in their attitude towards you. I get in touch quite easily and communicate within the framework of work, cooperation, and joint training. It is friendly contacts that start easily and develop quickly on the wave of interest, but it is not particularly possible to maintain them for a long time.

    ​I am a good-natured and trusting person) so usually there is no distrust of people. Well, if a person doesn't start behaving in such a way that even I will be wary) I try to build bridges - I call, for example, or throw off all sorts of interesting things. Situations of conscious unfriendliness are stressful. If this is a background rudeness, that is, the person is rude in itself or the situation is conducive to it, then I will not take it to heart. In a good mood, I'd rather try to make a joke of the situation, or just as jokingly test the ground - to understand what provoked such an attitude."
  • 3
    Third Eros
    Sometimes they question their feelings. They think carefully about their actions before showing sympathy. They are willing to express their feelings openly only if they are sure that they will not be rejected. They like it when their importance in the relationship is emphasized, but they are not forced to express their feelings. They feel uncomfortable when they are shown excessive sympathy, it causes them anxiety and nervousness.

    The feeling of deep sympathy causes them anxiety, because they may think that something more than just friendship is beginning between them. They worry about how the relationship will develop.

    They are afraid to get too attached to another person, because they believe that this can limit their freedom in relationships. Excessive attachment can lead to the fact that one of the partners will control the other or impose their desires on him. Such relationships can become unhealthy if one partner does not give the other freedom.
    "Excessive attachment is more of a burden to me, especially for a partner. I get attached myself, but not in such a way that it manifests itself in the relationship) as for liking, it largely depends on the partner. I don't really know how to do it myself (I rather accept it, perhaps), but with some people I was so tender that I was quite sympathetic)."
  • 4
    Fourth Storge
    They don't seek to control relationships or give advice, but rather are willing to listen to other people's opinions and ideas. At the same time, they do not always follow the advice of others, but rather look for authoritative sources of information. Strong leadership from others inspires and energizes them. If they are supported, it gives them spiritual inspiration and self-confidence.

    They don't like vague and uncertain guidance, they reject it or ignore it because they can't be sure of the result and don't understand how this guidance can lead to success.

    Therefore, they feel anxious and avoid such situations, preferring more predictable and understandable options. They ignore what they cannot achieve with such guidance. It is good if there is a person next to them who can show them the way. In such cases, they ask questions and ask others if they can't understand something. They ask you to explain the problem in order to better understand it.
    "With difficulty :D Parenting relationships do not cause any special associations... I do not like to educate and do not like to be educated, I prefer just to work on difficult moments. I don't like directing, either, but I can... or I think I can. I take advice calmly. Depending on what area, in which I don't know, but I need to know, then calmly and with gratitude. But in my native country-I can snap) I usually have a battle between what I want and common sense."