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HARMONIZER FEAS
A Harmonizer is a person who knows how to communicate effectively. They respect other people's opinions and actively manage interaction, making sure that the atmosphere is pleasant for everyone. The Harmonizer recognizes the importance of trust and setting boundaries in relationships. Showing sympathy, he takes into account the feelings and boundaries of other people, trying not to violate their personal space. He sincerely admires the achievements of others, without trying to show too much respect. Care is very important for the Harmonizer, but he does not like it imposed. He needs to control how this concern manifests itself in his life. When making decisions, they often have doubts, especially if there is a risk of negative consequences. The harmonizer does not actively seek to guide relationships or give advice. Instead, he prefers to listen to the opinions of others and choose the solution that suits him.
  • Your ambition

    You value friendship and trust, and are able to create an atmosphere of mutual understanding and support. Your loyalty and willingness to be around make you a great partner and friend (1st function, Philia).

  • Role in society

    You are able to express your feelings vividly and emotionally, to charm and inspire others to romantic exploits. Your passion is contagious, and you know how to create an atmosphere of falling in love (2nd function, Eros).

  • Growth zone

    Although it may be difficult for you to show unconditional care, you strive to help others and can learn to be more responsive to other people's needs (3rd function, Agape-growth zone).

  • The blind spot

    You accept advice and guidance, even though you may not always actively seek it out. You value the wisdom and experience that is passed on to you (4th function, Storge).

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Description by function
  • 1
    First Filia
    People who understand how and with whom they can best interact are able to find effective ways to communicate with others. They actively communicate, are able to correctly address other people, taking into account their character and mood. They respect other people's opinions, follow the rules of good form in conversation, and can choose the format of communication with other people themselves.

    People understand how much you can trust this or that person. Depending on how much time they spend with other people, they realize how important it is to set boundaries of trust. They understand that trust is the foundation of a healthy and productive relationship.

    In some cases, people believe that distrust is a reason for conflict. They want to immediately clarify the relationship and believe that in order to reach mutual understanding, they need to find common ground and have an honest discussion to avoid misunderstandings. To do this, you need to make an effort and try to hear each other. Then the relationship will become friendly and productive.
    "It's easy to interact, I don't see any problems. It is not difficult to initiate contacts - there would be a desire. Maintaining it for a long time is more difficult. The initiative just appears, by itself. The more I talk and know about a person, the more comfortable and "joyful"I feel. My environment is "sorted"))) Only I can "transfer" him from one circle to another if I want to. Friendship is perceived as communication with people based on their interests. With some-some interests, with others-others.

    Trust is easy if the person is open and trusts me. If it's closed, it'll make me nervous, and I'll start asking him questions. If I feel any tension on his part, I'll leave him alone. Although I don't think about trust, I just have a positive attitude. I tell some people more than others. I believe that I can be trusted, and whether others trust me or not somehow doesn't matter. Although they usually do)

    ​I don't recall any doubts about friendship. It happens that a person does not act as she thought. Because if something like this appears, it quickly turns into some kind of decision-either to change the format of interaction, or to refuse altogether. I usually check it out in practice, if a person did not behave as I expected, then I will put a check mark that he is not such a friend. I don't think about it, I don't dwell on it.

    ​Unfriendly attitude is unpleasant, of course. Sometimes I am aggressive, sometimes philosophical. But here it is difficult for me to add something - it rarely happened) A big role is played by who exactly behaved this way. You can ask what happened, if he wants to talk, if I'm the reason. If close, then I will dig up and try to fish out by force sometimes. And if it's a random character that I'm not interested in, then to hell with it."
  • 2
    Second Eros
    In relationships, they show sympathy gently and with ease. It can be a reaction to an interesting person or a remarkable behavior. Sympathy is directed at those who they like, evoke pleasant emotions or make a positive impression. Compliments are expressed creatively, emphasizing the qualities of the other person. They can be expressed symbolically or beautifully, expressing love or respect for the person to whom they are addressed.

    Compliments can be expressed in different ways: through resonant words, gestures, or a smile. Showing sympathy for other people, they try not to cross borders and not cause negative emotions. They always try to admire people and their work without abusing their respect.

    They show sympathy to support the interests of those they love and respect. To maintain communication, relationships and mutual understanding, show relationships with love, warmth and respect. They try to find compromises, solve problems and eliminate shortcomings so that everyone is happy. They try to avoid unnecessary conflicts and create a pleasant atmosphere.
    "I like to show sympathy! However, I try not to go too far, you need to feel some naturalness. I can praise you if I liked it, sincerely admire it, say a compliment. It is necessary to show sympathy, otherwise how will it be seen? Well, further on the situation, and they are different - to make gifts, write poetry, spend time with a person, trying to learn more about him, about his inner world.

    ​In sympathies, I try to somehow find a line when my feelings manifest themselves naturally, and my partner's feelings are also sincere and real, and they manifest themselves in response. Do not pass, when from the bay-floundering with the whole "club" on the head bang, then the effect is so-so)

    There is no doubt about your own sympathy. If suddenly my sympathy is not accepted, then there will be surprise, which I try not to show. If he doesn't accept it, I won't go in. I'll probably ask you why, and then maybe you'll find some more or less objective reason. When someone openly expresses their "fi" to me, then you don't need to be friends with them. Sometimes my happy attitude was mistaken for flirting, even though I was just being friendly on my part."
  • 3
    Third Agape
    Scope of attention and support in the area of anxiety. They can be demanding or doubtful. Sometimes they are afraid to make decisions that can lead to negative consequences. However, they gratefully accept gentle and situational support from others. This helps them better understand the situation and balance their thoughts, which is necessary to solve problems and achieve peace of mind.

    They don't like being forced to take care that they don't want to accept or provide. This can be a manifestation of hidden contradictions, fears, or a desire to be independent. People feel uncomfortable and upset when they are forced to take care of themselves, and they start avoiding people who are trying to help them. In this area, they have a heightened perception of relationships. Sometimes they don't understand what kind of care people need, and sometimes even themselves. From their point of view, it is important to be able to take care of yourself and others in such a way that it brings only positive emotions to everyone.
    "Umm...how to help? In what? In general, if a person is very interesting to me, then I try to take care of it somehow, but sometimes it is not visible. I probably like it, but I often try to hide it under simple logic or something else. Something's getting tighter here)

    If I'm taken care of... Well, I probably like it, but it's easy to sort it out here. You don't need to worry too much. But it's probably also depressing without her. In general, support is usually pleasantly surprised if it is unobtrusive, but when it is directly pressed, I usually report that "I will do everything and generally fuck off - I will figure it out." That is, something like this.

    I usually hate people who need help. And sometimes, on the contrary, you want to help and support. But I rarely do it, I figure it out myself, they can do it too. But about the doubts...Well, I don't always know exactly how to help, yes. Sometimes, if I still decide, then usually this is the help that I can provide, but how appropriate it is-xs)"
  • 4
    Fourth Storge
    They do not seek to give advice and guide relationships, but rather are willing to listen to other people's opinions and ideas. At the same time, they do not necessarily follow the advice of others, rather, they should be authoritative sources. Confidence in the direction that others give helps them, inspires them, and charges them with positive energy. If their direction is supported, it gives them spiritual inspiration and self-confidence.

    They don't like a vague and unclear direction, they reject it or ignore it because they can't be sure of the results and can't understand how this direction can lead to success. Therefore, they feel anxious and refuse such directions, preferring more predictable and understandable options. They ignore what they would not have been able to achieve in the course of applying such directions.

    It is good if there is a person next to them who can enlighten their path. In such cases, they ask questions and ask others if they can't understand something. They ask you to explain the problem in order to better understand it.
    "I practically do not give advice myself, I can listen to it and if it seems reasonable, then approx. If not, then I won't use it. Let's say you trust a reputable source more, so you first check whether the first tips are correct, and then you use the next ones without much thought. In a romantic relationship, I feel like I'm being guided.

    I direct myself perfectly, I have almost no doubts. If I wanted to, I did it. I don't bother with others, I think that everyone knows how to do the right thing. Although if someone asks about some problem, I will put everything on the shelves, but I will not interfere. When I see that a relationship is developing incorrectly and I feel bad in it, I tear it up. If he doesn't listen to my advice , that's his business."